...And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
~Proverbs 31:26b (NKJV)

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The Proverbs 31 woman was in no way perfect, yet she did strive to please and glorify her Savior by the way she spoke to those around her. She did not let herself give into her temper, even if she was getting agitated with someone, because she knew that that would not please the Lord. Not only did she say kind words to people when she spoke to them, but her tone of voice shone forth with kindness as well.

Daily examine yourselves, as I often have to, to see whether or not the law of kindness is on your tongue as well. Is the way you speak to your parents honoring, respectful, revering and kind? Do you speak to seniors and those in authority in the same way? What about the way you speak to your siblings? To your older siblings, do you seek to be an encouragement to them in the way that you speak? Are you kind and considerate, or do the words you say bring them down instead of build them up as they ought? What about your younger siblings? Because they're younger, they often follow us around everywhere, copy us, etc., and that sometimes annoys us. But despite that, does the love of Christ shine through us in the way that we speak to them? Are we abundantly kind and sweet to them, or does the way we speak leave a little to be desired?

If you find yourself about to give into your temper, just wait, don't say anything, but rather ask yourself the following before you speak: "Would the tone of voice or the words I was about to say have been honoring to Christ and encouraging to this person, or would they have saddened that person, hurt him or her, or angered them?" If the words or tone of voice would have done so, then simply ask the Lord for the strength to speak as you know you should, rather than the way your sinful nature wants you to.

All of us, because we're sinners, say things throughout the day that we later deeply regret. When you know you've done so, first go to the Lord and ask His forgiveness. Then go to that person that you wronged, and tell them that you're sorry and ask for their forgiveness as well. This is a very humbling thing to do, and therefore it is often a hard thing for us to do, but rememember: the Lord hates pride, and that is one characteristic that should not belong to any of His children. Ask the Lord for strength each morning that you would speak in the way that He would want you to that day. And as you learn to speak kinder, you too will have on your tongue the "law of kindness".

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What is a Maiden?

I found this forward in Raising Maidens of Virtue by Stacy MacDonald, and thought it was a good discription of what a maiden is:

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What is a Maiden? When we hear the word, do we picture a medieval princess strumming on a lute in a fantastical castle? Or perhaps we imagine a prim and proper nineteenth century schoolmarm with every hair in place. Maybe we're even cynical enough to scoff at the very notion of maidenhood and decide that it is a quaint and outdated concept we are well rid of. After all, doesn't being a maiden imply that a girl will live a secluded life, shuttered away from the world and contemplating her virtues alone?

God's word gives us many beautiful word pictures of young women. Perhaps the best known (and often the least discussed!) in Christian families is the picture of the woman in the Song of Solomon. The writer describes his wife as a walled garden full of delicious fruits, beautiful flowers, rich perfumes, and sweet springs of water(4:12-16). The wall protects her from intruders and preserves her beauties for her husband- but the wall is not ugly or " restrictive". Indeed, a garden could not remain untrammeled and unharmed without the wall. She has been lovingly guarded since maidenhood, tenderly cared for and prepared for the one gardener(whether it be her spouse or the Lord if she is called to remain single).

At the end of Song of Solomon, the Shulamite men ask what they should do for their young sister. THe answer was to cover her walls with silver and build up her door with boards of cedar. Here we can see that it is the job of the brothers not only to protect the purity of their sisters, but to also make the"wall" of protection beautiful at the same time.Maidenly modesty is not dour and unsmiling. It is not shadowy or fearful. It does not suppress God-given femininity. Rather, modesty and propriety shine like silver and sparkle like pure spring water from a fountain. But these virtues cannot survive alone. They require champions and bold protectors-fathers and brothers who will guard maidenhood even as godly mothers and sisters cultivate it and nourish it.

But where have all the bold knights gone? Where are the pure maidens who inspire them to heroism?

It is easy to look at the culture around us and point fingers as we ponder the lost virtues of maidenhood. Even tiny girls walk around in "hooker chic" with jaded looks in their eyes, their innocence trampled upon by the media, popculture and peer pressure. "Where are their fathers?" we might ask. What is her mother thinking to dress her that way?"

But we need to look no further then our own hearts to see the root of the problem. The sin that dispises maidenhood is within all of us. From the moment Satan tempted Eve to sell her God given innocence for a dime store version of wisdom, we have been looking in all the wrong places for love, exceptance and beauty....

Read more about maidenhood, from her book, " Raising Maidens of Virtue. Stacy MacDonald is the mother of three growing girls, and they have helped her write this book. I really like it alot!

Entered by Laura H